ihadnointentiontoblog:

Hey RE: the teacher crush thing.

To the Anon, I think I speak for many of my teacher friends when I say that any teacher who initiates a relationship with one of their pupils has crossed a line. If you become a lecturer at some university’s they will forbid dating students in your contract and even in the ones that don’t it is frowned upon. It it totally unethical from most teachers points of view.

Also you say he says you are intelligent and mature. He could be complimenting you (I don’t know, he may be a sleeze) but it is more likely that he is encouraging you as a mentor or simply stating a fact that will help you to succeed.

Is he a good teacher? Do the other pupils like him? Does he say this sort of thing to other pupils? If not you should be more concerned than flattered. Even if he loved you, if he was a good man he would wait until you are not his pupil, i.e., when he no longer has a duty of care to your best interests.

I know some people would disagree with this but I have seen pupils taken advantage of by older men (not teachers) and it horrifies and disgusts me how people can use someone’s immaturity against them.